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Here comes the bride, here comes the bride– Shh! Be quiet! She’s coming, and we’re not allowed to make a peep!
Nowadays, brides and grooms can get extremely creative with their weddings: holding the ceremony in an exotic location, designating a theme for everyone to dress in, and eloping at the courthouse only scratch the surface of how a happy couple can choose to celebrate their special day. Typically, the elements of a wedding are chosen to enhance everyone’s experience and make the day memorable. However, one bride has recently gone viral for her creative, and frankly unreasonable, demands.
This bride, who plans to have a “silent wedding”, reached out to Ask Amy at The Washington Post for advice and was immediately ripped apart for her expectations. Below, you’ll find the full letter that the bride-to-be composed, as well as some of the responses from flabbergasted readers, and an interview with Amber Peterson, Community Manager of Planner’s Lounge.
We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments, and if you’ve ever attended a wedding with similarly strict requirements, feel free to share your own experiences as well. Then, if you’re interested in reading another Bored Panda article featuring a bride with unrealistic expectations, check out this story next!
This bride has gone viral for demanding that all of her wedding guests wear yellow and refrain from speaking to one another
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A couple’s wedding day is their day. If they want to serve all gluten-free food, hold the ceremony outside on a humid day in August, and hire a live band who sounds like they just started playing instruments that morning, that’s their prerogative. All of their guests are expected to smile and tell them how lovely the ceremony and reception have been. But at some point, there have to be limitations on what the bride and groom can control. They are inviting their friends and family members, after all, so why would they want their loved ones to have a terrible time?
To gain more insight on this topic from a wedding planning expert, we reached out to Amber Peterson, Community Manager of Planner’s Lounge. We were curious if Amber has ever heard of a silent wedding, or anything similar. “I have heard of a silent disco dance floor, when guests are all wearing headphones tuned to the DJ, but I have never heard of a couple asking their guests not to speak,” she told Bored Panda.
We also asked Amber how realistic this bride’s requests are. “Asking your guests to be completely silent for the entirety of the event is absolutely unrealistic, and I wonder how they plan to enforce this policy,” she noted. “If a guest speaks above a whisper at the reception, are they thrown out? This seems like it will just make guests uncomfortable and frankly remove any of the fun from the day. A wedding is about love, gathering, family, and friends. If the guests are not allowed to speak to one another, why bother coming?”
And when it comes to how far brides are allowed to go when making demands for their guests, Amber told Bored Panda, “I think brides can ask whatever they want from their guests, but do not be surprised if that means they opt out of your celebration. Asking for a specific colored attire might mean that guests have to buy something they will never wear again, and for some people, dressing in a way that makes them feel bad about their appearance.”
“Some couples don’t care if their guests look bad, but they will be in your wedding pictures for the rest of your life, so I would prefer that everyone looked and felt their best!” she noted. “Dictating how loud they can speak is not only unrealistic, but insulting! Most people know how to behave at a wedding, and if there are specific guests you are concerned about acting out, maybe do not invite those guests.”
Amber also shared some words of wisdom for this controlling bride. “Your wedding is one of the only times in your life that everyone you and your partner love will be in one room, and I recommend that this bride embrace that and enjoy her guests and allow them to enjoy the day. Just because your guests are chatting does not mean they are not there to celebrate you and your fiance!”
“While the wedding is about the commitment you are making to one another, it is also about the gathering of your friends and family, and you should consider their fun and comfort,” she told Bored Panda. “Your wedding is only one day, and you do not want to make the people you love miserable in order to celebrate with you and your partner. If you are unbearable during your wedding, people with remember that for YEARS to come. Be considerate.”
“A wedding is a large-scale party you are hosting to celebrate your love, and your guests are invited to celebrate with you. Guests should be treated with the same respect and love you expect them to give to you as the engaged couple,” Amber says. “This means making sure they are having fun, and are comfortable and at ease. This is the first event you are hosting as a married couple, so be gracious and welcoming!”
If you’d like to learn more wedding-planning tips from Amber or the rest of her team, be sure to check out Planner’s Lounge right here!
If this bride’s primary concern is avoiding rowdy wedding guests, there are ways to ensure that the occasion is calm without restricting anyone from speaking. They can choose not to serve alcohol, or have a limited amount, they can play tame and quiet music, and they can hold the ceremony and reception during the morning or daytime, rather than the evening. But just because it’s her wedding day doesn’t mean she gets to control everyone in attendance, including her fiancé who is not on board with the idea.
We would love to hear your thoughts on this silent wedding idea in the comments down below, pandas. Would you have to RSVP “no” to the quiet, yellow wedding? If you’ve ever attended a similarly bizarre tying of the knot, feel free to share your personal stories as well, and then if you’d like to read another Bored Panda article featuring a woman who qualifies as a “bridezilla”, you can find that right here!
Readers have had plenty to say about the silent wedding online, sharing jokes and detailing their expectations of the event
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